Monday, October 03, 2005

Quitting Time?

Striving for a goal sometimes becomes more work than you think it is worth. This is a taboo subject in most self-help success books. I am not suggesting you change course at the slightest problem. Obstacles are to be expected in attaining any worthy goal. Q-U-I-T is a four-letter word, but it may be the right thing to do.

How do you know when to change course, or when to keep trying? Often you will not. You will second guess yourself, and may regret whichever decision you make when things go wrong. You can combat this feeling of uncertainty in a few ways.

Before you start expending time, capital, and energy, you must ask yourself if the goal is really something you want. Take your time. Often you may find you are trying to fulfill someone else's goals for you. Analyze your goal to see if it fits with your principles. It is much easier to modify a goal than it is to modify your principles.

Next, realize there will be a price to pay along the way. Be willing to make balanced sacrifices to reach your target. Remember, sometimes the best thing you can do is take a break for a while to re-charge.

Finally, find a mentor to emulate, and a coach to guide you. Share your goal with someone you trust. This serves the dual purpose of having a sounding board and someone to be accountable to.

After going through the whole process, you may still feel like you have chosen the wrong target. That's okay. Don't' dwell on the negative. Try to take what you can from your current situation. Learn what you can and move on.

I will probably get a lot of criticism for using the 'Q' word, but that is not really what I am suggesting here. What I am suggesting is that as you grow, your goals may change. That is a sure sign of progress, and one I hope you experience.

1 Comments:

At 8:48 AM, Blogger Pug8 said...

Quit is not an option, alterring your method is.

I would propose that if a goal seems unatainable, that you need to break it into smaller, realistic objectives. Flexibility without compromising your goal is possible if the goal is realistic.

The key is not to quit when the going gets tough, but to redirect your energy and resources to achieve a part of the goal. You may find that the same goal can be achieved through a completely different approach.

Regroup, adjust fire, and continue the mission. Nobody was ever ostracized for that, because that is not failure, rather an intraspective approach to the problem.

Success is yours, as long as you never quit trying.

 

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