Wednesday, May 18, 2005

Listening and Silence

Here are a few reflections on the listening and silence...

Silence is golden.

Silence prevents arguments.

Listening makes it possible for you to know what the other person is thinking.

Listening, active and interested listening, is a basic form of respect.

We have two ears and one mouth - we need to listen twice as much as we speak.

Listening to someone else makes it many times more likely that they will listen to you.

It is no coincidence that when police read a person their Miranda rights the first thing they say is, "You have the right to remain silent".

You get into a lot less trouble listening than you do talking.

How many times have you heard someone complain: "He just listens way too much"?

Ask someone how they are doing, then really listen to their answer.

Try talking 25% less than you do now, for one week.

Try listening 50% more than you do now, for one week.

Pay attention not only to the words people say, but also to their tone of voice, facial expressions, and gestures. What are those things saying?

You cannot learn if you are the one talking. No lesson can be imparted to you. The benefits of what other people know are a treasure that can only be unlocked by listening.


At 2:54 PM, Blogger Trudging said...

Nice post!

At 7:05 AM, Blogger Pug8 said...

"It is better to keep your mouth shut and have people think you're a fool than to open your mouth and prove it."-Mark Twain

I would also like to add that waiting for someone to finish talking to make a counterpoint is not listening.

Very nice post.

At 7:33 AM, Blogger URJIT said...

those are really great thoughts. every one whishes that people could really shut up some time and listen.

silence is like music to the ears sometimes but can also be like a terryfying screech some othertimes.
so we need to really when to speak and when to keep shut to enjoy our lives.

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