Saturday, April 30, 2005

Arrrrggghhh!!!

"There must be something I can do". "Why do they get all the lucky breaks"? "The rich just keep getting richer". "It's just not fair". Each of these sentences are a symptom of frustration. Chances are you have heard someone utter one or more of these sentences. That someone may have even been the person reading this blog entry. If so, that's okay you are normal. Breaking the habit of saying things that add to your frustration is a great place to start.

Success can seem so close that it becomes almost tangible. You try to grab it, you make your move, almost, almost, then...nothing. Arrrrggghhh!You know success is possible, because other people are successful. Stop. Change that. If you really want success to be tangible, you must stop thinking of it as something that happens to other people. Success does not just happen to people - people create success. You can choose to be one of those people.

Frustration is normal. Frustration can be harmful or helpful. It is harmful when it hinders your progress, when it causes ulcers, and when it erodes your relationships. Frustration is helpful when it propels you to take action. Frustration is not possible without at least a seed of belief in the possibility that something can be done.

If you are frustrated, ask yourself why. Remember, it's not whether or not you are frustrated, it's how you handle the frustration - and that is up to you.

2 Comments:

At 10:56 AM, Blogger Pug8 said...

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At 10:57 AM, Blogger Pug8 said...

One thing I have found in a series of recent job interviews is that HR personnel like to ask a common question, "Give an example of something that frustrates you."

After answering this question clumsily a couple times, I started to really evaluate the question instead of searching for a clever answer that implies that I don't really get frustrated.

In my last interview, I think I nailed it. The interviewer asked the question and I was ready. My answer, instead of the clever anecdote, was that frustration is the result of an ineffective coping mechanism.

Certainly we all get frustrated from time to time, but what we should learn from that frustration is that we need to change the coping mechanism instead of the result.

Don't go to the store to buy a box of Band Aids because you know you will cut your hands, buy a pair of gloves instead.

 

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