Saturday, October 09, 2004

A Brief Description of the Elements of Social Success

Before someone can determine whether or not they are successful in the social realm; they have to be able to define two things: 1) What defines 'social', and 2) what is success within that definition.

Here then, are my brief thoughts on the elements of social success.

1. Self - This means you. You have to be comfortable with yourself before you can be truly comfortable with others. Therefore success in this area would have to, at the very least, include being happy with yourself.

2. Family - These would be people related to you through blood or law. In theory, they have to love you no matter how much you screw-up. In reality though, they may resent you when you do well, and gloat when you do poorly. Success here I think would include having loving, non-judgmental relationships.

3. Community - Includes people outside the family group that you have direct contact with: Friends, acquaintances, co-workers, and neighbors all fall into this group. There are many different levels of interaction in this broad group. That makes defining success a little more difficult. Perhaps the best definition would be a steady improvement of each relationship over time.

4. World - People that fall outside of the other three groups fall into this category. In my opinion it is more difficult to achieve success in the 'world' category than 'community', but it can be easier to measure the impact on those outside your community. Making small changes for the greater good, contributing to charity, and volunteering are good indicators of success here.

In the social, as in all areas of success, success has to some degree be self-defined. I am not as much of a success as I'd like to be in any of the above four groups, but I'm actively trying to improve on them.


At 10:23 AM, Blogger Pug8 said...

I wonder if there is any correlation between this and Maslow's heirarchy of needs? This is a very well thought out post, and quite interesting. I especially like how the focus spreads from the origin.

At 7:04 AM, Blogger G said...

Rightfully said. Well thought out. Although it would be nice to have outlines under each number, say under "1.) Self" we have 10 numbers of improving the way we appreciate ourself. :)

At 9:36 PM, Blogger Pug8 said...

To G: If you cannot measure it, you cannot manage it. Very good point.


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